Have you ever noticed what happens when you don’t have a plan? Perhaps you do what many of us do: 1-numb yourself from thinking about it with food, tv, busy work, distraction; 2-respond or look to others to set the agenda, do what they want you to do, go with the flow; or 3- worry, fret, pace, make lists as if a list of chores is going to take you forward.
I could easily fall into numbing. And distraction. And worry. Yep, check, check, check. But I have dealt with these learned reactions by planning – not a to do list – but an actual plan. A meal plan, a shopping plan, an education plan, a bucket list plan. Call them goals, plans or intentions – it all leads to the same place. Authentic happiness.
Do you have a plan? Or do you continue to bounce along, drifting with the whims of time and other’s opinions of what is right for you? Take a few moments and OWN YOUR DESIRES. Start strengthening your planning muscle. It will pay off for a lifetime.
So, how do you begin to make a plan? Here’s my advice.
1. Make a list of what’s most important to you. Don’t judge it or put it through the practicality meter. Just write it down. From circus clown to the CEO of a major corporation, who you want to be will show up. Healthy, clean eater, fit and active hiker; the good stuff that strikes a nerve will rise to the top. If it helps, divide it into these important groups: relationship , spiritual growth career choices, emotional freedom, physical health, financial security. Take the top hit in each area to make plans. Or just pick the one which moves you the most. Whatever it is, make it about you, what you truly want. Take a step towards making that one thing a reality and do it again tomorrow.
2. Seek out a coach or friend who is good at this stuff. Get advice. No need to reinvent the wheel. Browsing the internet for planning advice can be a source but I recommend you go with whom you trust – who you believe is walking the walk, not just talking the talk.
3. Buy a book that helps you move forward. Anthony Robbins and Brene Brown are excellent motivators with completely different styles. Robbins is all about action and Brown discovers what’s hidden beneath the surface that keeps you in one place.